Finding Common Ground As A Couple

In all relationships there comes a point and time where the two individuals have to sit down and think about whether the relationship should be brought to the next level. That decision may come sooner or later if a couple openly and obviously decides that they're incompatible with each other. However, serious couples need to sit down and figure out where each of them stands on the issues. This scenario is not so hard as it seems, though, because finding common ground in the relationship should be the goal of both the man and the woman involved.

The question comes in, though, about how to go about finding common ground and asking those questions that may be uncomfortable. There are several ways to go about it. First, there are plenty of books that pose questions directly at each of the people involved in the relationship that have to do with where each of them stands on religion, money, children, death and dying, health issues, and many other topics that may not have initially been discussed. It's actually a great idea to spend part of an evening reading a book with each other, and if the couple is totally in love with each other than this should not be difficult at all.

On the other hand, another way to go about asking each other crucial questions is to write a series of letters or notes to each other. In other words, each letter, note, or email should contain a short series of questions that one partner is not sure about where the other stands. This is actually a very clever and romantic way to be able to figure out some things that you previously hadn't known about your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. Whether you choose to trade emails or letters, though, or read a book like "1000 Questions for Couples" by Michael Webb that is filled with questions on all issues such as the ones talked about above, finding common ground is definitely important in a relationship.