When She Is Jealous Of Your Ex

When you first began dating your current squeeze, she seemed the coolest and most open-minded chick you would ever met. There were no house rules in the relationship and hanging out occasionally with your Ex was totally kosher. You're friends after all, you recall her saying: How can I stop you from hanging out with a friend? I hate people who are controlling in a relationship. But fast-forward to the present say, eight months on and things have changed. Unspoken rules have surfaced without your realizing it. That green light is no longer a sign to Go ahead, but an ugly green hue in her angry eyes.

How do you win? This is a delicate situation. Look at it this way: If you did not care in the slightest for someone, you could never be jealous, no mater what attentions that person gave to someone else. So instead of getting mad and telling your partner she's off her rocker, try the path of empathy. Unless she's some psycho girlfriend from hell(10 pm curfews, alcohol consumption quotas or no buddy nights out allowed), you can safely assume that she's coming from a good place. So stay calm when she acts up after you go out lunch with your ex. Stick to this rule: only one person in a relationship can freak out in any given time. If both of you do so simultaneously, you might just be headed for splitsville. If you're just starting out together, invite your partner along with your ex. Introduce the both of them and give them a chance to be comfortable. This may appear like a dicey act to pull off. But, hey, if you're really just friends with your ex, why should you be concerned.