The Green-Eyed Monster

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Admit it, guys:

Sometimes, when your partner flares up in jealousy, you sort of like the attention. It's a quick boost to the ego, really. However, if the J-monster rears its head constantly, it can become a burden to you and the relationship.

Suppose, while making small talk with the waitress, you crack a joke and gets laughs all round. You think that everything is cool (read: You are). But once the waitress leaves the booth, the laughter dissipates into icy silence. That's when you know that the cold treatment has begun. Your girlfriend specifies your crime. Flirting with the waitress (it doesn't help that the waitress is pretty hot). You're lost and ask yourself: Wait a minute, did I do something wrong?

Dude, the answer has a color: Green.

Now, don't fret just yet. Most relationship experts will agree that a degree of jealousy in a relationship is actually a healthy thing. As quoted in an online BBC article: In relationships where feelings of jealousy are mild and occasional, it reminds the couple not to take each other for granted. It can encourage couples to appreciate each other and make a conscious effort to ensure the other person feels valued. Here, jealousy comes out a positive. Jealousy heightens emotions, making love feel stronger and sex more passionate. In small manageable doses, jealousy can be a positive force in a relationship. But what about unexpected outbursts of jealousy that you find ridiculous?

I will be writing more about the different jealousy issues in my next few posts, so, do remember to
come back.