Dealing With Divorce And Ways To Prevent It

Divorce is a bitter way to measure marital death. And the ways to prevent divorce can be pretty tedious.

When men and women deal with divorce, they usually go through a lot of embarrassment, anger and disappointment. If you had read some of my other articles, the reasons of divorce varies so it will be hard to give a general gauge here.

However, the ways to prevent divorce does not constitute a relationship-mending miracle. You still need time to iron things out with your spouse.

For Guys

When men consider their marriage is on the rocks, they will do anything to get their wives back. Here are some golden rules to follow before you being your pursuit:

First Rule: Don't ever treat your wife like she is some sort of princess. She isn't a moron. She will know it just some kind of desperate attempt to bring her back to your side. My guess? She will strongly refuse.

Second Rule: It might be because you might appear too controlling during your marriage. Therefore, if she wants to go out will her friends, let her be. I understand that it is difficult to let her go off at this time as she might be seeking another companion. But, if you don't want to let her go off, things might just make a turn for the worse.

Third Rule: Communicate effectively. Bring your wife to a candlelit dinner and offer to make up for broken promises. Try to pinpoint as many problems as you can during the dinner and allow her to tell you as many troubles as possible. There is no point arguing, even if you feel that she is incorrect. It is worth taking some time to consider whose fault is it, before you make another wrong comment.

Fourth Rule: Even though you might think that you have handled the situation fairly well, it is not a good idea to prompt her to have sexual intercourse. For a woman, she might be confused about what she wants in this marriage and the last thing on her mind would most probably be having sex with you!

Fifth Rule: Women are complex creatures. So, you have to careful to avoid topics which are already raw to your marriage. It may be because she spends less time with her friends or she is unable to keep a dog due to your allergy towards animals. You have to be patient in order to find out the roots of the problems

For Women

If you think your marriage is breaking down and your situation is really rare, please stop deluding yourself. Almost one out of every eight couples has marital problems between themselves. If you are one of these unfortunate couple, please don't be anxious. You need to be calm in order to win your husband back by your side.

First rule: Always be patient in your attempts to get back your husband. If you show that you are rushing into desperate attempts to win him back, it might just be more obvious to him that you need him and he doesn't need you. What you need to show is that he needs you more than you need him!

Second Rule: Show your husband that you still care very much about him- subtly! Never ever say "I still love you!" directly! It will just seem that you are being thrown into the raging seas!

Call him frequently and ask him how he is doing at work. But, do make sure not to make it a repetitive process but rather an occasional activity. Don't cross the line by encouraging him to think you need to speak to him everyday.

Third Rule: Make him gifts that will allow him to reminisce about the happy times you once shared with him

Fourth Rule: Don't argue with your man. Allow him to say whatever he wants. Even if you do disagree with him, speak to him in your politest tone possible. Don't aggravate all the negative circumstances.

Fifth Rule: Try to look sexy at every moment. If you gained some weight, it is time for you to shed some fat. Doing some exercises not only helps you look good in those sexy lingerie, it will entice your husband to remember those hot nights you shared together.